It
is not difficult to teach male kids, but the important thing is the way you
lure and help them to be confident.
Do not shout at your
child unreasonably
There is a fact that parents
usually have higher hope in male kids than female kids, so the pressure the
former have to put up with is also 2 or 3 times as much as that of the latter.
Many parents make a complaint: ‘It is so hard to teach male children.’ In fact,
teaching male kids is not difficult, but the important thing is the way you lure and help them
to be confident.
Parents need to
absolutely avoid these flowing sentences killing ‘he-man’ spirit of male kids
1. Try hard, try
hard… try more!
When children cannot
gain expected achievement, many parents prove to be disappointed, dissatisfied,
or say ‘If only you had tried a little more’.
Kids’ ability has a
certain limit. If you expect too much, you are unintentionally pressurizing
them, which makes them always be stressed. Therefore, when children have not
gained expected results yet, prove to be optimistic and give them comfort with
positive attitude. Never tell them: ‘We know you can try more.’
If only you had tried a little more
2. Do not be
womanish
This sentence will certainly
be kept in male kids’ mind and makes them hurt unconsciously. Whether a kid is
male or female, it has to put up with certain pressure from living environment
and people around. Do not compare like that, and remember that male kids have
the right to cry.
Sometimes, accept their
crying or wheedling giving them chance to release pressure and repression.
3. Did you fail
again?
‘You are so ineffective
and never manage to do anything.’ That is the prickliest reproach that male
kids never want to hear but some parents unaffectedly say very often.
Unconsciously, this prickly sentence makes male kids lose their confidence and
always fear to do anything.
Does anyone succeed
without any failure before? Male kids need to experience to draw lessons for
them. Therefore, they need your help rather than your sneer and disparagement.
Create and think of situations for male kids so that they can gain success
although it is the smallest.
4. You are so naughty.
It is very bad of you to do so.
For male kids, playing
is more important. Therefore, the fact that they neglect, make noise, and are
more difficult to focus is completely easy to understand. However, do not
mistake activeness for violence. Give male kids space to run and jump, and
teach them how to wake up their potential abilities in effective ways.
5. You are the
best
Praise makes male kids
be more confident, but praise correctly and sufficiently. Do not extol them to
the skies. When they are wrongly aware of their real abilities, they lack
effort and have a subjective look at life.
In a competition, when
children do not gain expected prize, parents think that the fault is due to the
jury’s unfairness. In an examination, when children do not get the highest
scores, parents think that the teachers did not evaluate their tests correctly.
When children have conflict with friends, parents blame that their friends are
bad. When children fall down, parents are busy looking for obstacle and forget
that their kids are too young and weak to cope with storm in life. Kids growing
up in such unfair protection will have more difficulty in being aware who they
are, what they need, where they will go, who they will go with, and where is
their finish.
In sum, for male kids,
playing is the most important thing. According to the educationist Nobufumi,
the fact that helps male kids improve their learning ability is not early
education, but is much playing naturally. They develop ideas and creation
through failures they experienced when trying to make reckless ideas come true.
Certainly, computer games have very few good effects. You can let them play
chess or cards to encourage them to use their brains.
