If you think that children who are under 2
years old don’t understand your teachings, you’re completely misunderstand.
It’s hard for you to make a child who has
just known how to walk to obey to you; however, at the age, children can
distinguish wrong and right, not to mention that they know what’s allowed and
what’s not. However, do you know that by expressions of attitudes, voices,
eyes… you can transfer your messages to children to have them be obedient so
that you don’t have to tell them off.
Dr. Martin J. Drell from the American
Academy of Child Psychology (AACAP) will give you some methods to help educate
under-2-years-old children to be obedient.
It’s
hard for you to make a child who has just known how to walk to obey you.
1. Being strict in your talk is better than yelling
Dr. Martin J, Drell said that when you let
your children see your anger, you were failed. Because when children are
scared, they can become more willful and stubborn.
Instead of getting angry, you should be
serious and tell children about their doing which is not good and don’t forget
to show children result from bad things.
Of course you children can’t understand things
that their parents expect them to do; however, don’t be for that reason that
you give up explaining to children about their actions. Your strict talk,
innovation and attitude can make children realize the situation at some levels.
Children can at least feel guilty and sorry.
Showing
your anger to your children will make you fail in gaining their respect.
2. Use eyes
You shouldn’t forget the eyes, stern eyes
are effective “weapons”. When talk to children about their mistakes, look at
them in the eye and start the talk. You eye will help children be focused, feel
the gravity of the issues and make themselves listen to your talk.
However, Martin J. Drell also advised
parents to not look at children with angry eyes but justice stern eyes because
children could learn the situation from your eyes.
3. Actions following words
Sometimes, you should send to children
serious messages. The messages require the strength of words, intonations and
actions. For examples, if you tell your children to go to bed, you should also
take them to the bedroom and turn off the light.
Your children will understand that it’s bed
time and there’s nothing can change the situation and follow your words.
4. Give children specific guidance
When you want your children to collect
their toys after finishing playing, you should give them specific guidance
about it. Never say to an under-2-year-old child an ambiguous sentence like
“You’d better collect your toys” but say to them “Put the green snail in to the
box”. You can give children a piece of paper having notes so that children can
do it themselves next times.
Children don’t need to know what should be
put to where as they still don’t have complete develop, they need to learn a
lot. Therefore, if you want an under-2-year-old child to understand and listen
to your words, you need to have specific guidance.
5. Do not require too much on children
If you asked your children to do for you
something but they haven’t reacted to it, you should remind them once. If you
remind them for times, children will misunderstand that you’re angry and tend
to stay away from you.
And when you talk, your ability to control
anger will decrease if children don’t listen to you. Remember getting angry
means you’re failed.
6. Do not get touched by children’s eyes
That
children show their sorry in their eyes and lips touches the heart of many
parents.
Looking at children’s eyes covered with
tears makes moms can’t control their heart and hold children in their arms
after giving lessons to the children. The action accidentally erases all the
achievements of your educating. Dr. Martin J. Drell recommended mothers to let
children have 5 minutes for themselves after telling them a lesson.
