Whining and warring are many children’s
common ‘diseases’ that make parents headachy.
If your family has a child who is/was in
kindergarten, of course you are/were no less annoying? As the mother of two
'angels' (Bean is almost 4 and Suri is 2), sometimes my head as if to 'explode'
by their fussy habits, anorexia or 'tricks'. But once experiencing, I have
learnt many of the knowledge and know how to handle more flexible.
1. Anorexia
Entering kindergarten age, children tend to
anorexia or sometimes have no interest in eating. Expression of the children
may make you restless and anxious, but in reality, it is normal.
Kindergarteners often have erratic eating
habits. Today they can eat a lot of foods and feel delicious, but next day they
are indifferent with foods. Sometimes, they vehemently refused to eat all the
foods, mainly vegetables. Therefore, the task of parents is not forcing children
to eat, but offers many food options, from snacks to main dishes, and create
more attractive menu. For example, if your children like milk, yogurt and
fruit, please make vitamin. Vegetables also are 'disguised' skillfully in the
dish.
Trying to force children to eat is
unscientific method, and sometimes causes fear psychology for children.
Ideally, abandon your child and give them opportunity to be hungry and appetite
and eat more delicious. Moreover, do not forget to encourage children when they
eat well.
Most
children in preschool age are anorexia.
2. Refuse to sleep
In kindergarten age, children will become
mischievous in order to break the usual rules of their mothers and refuse to go
to bed each night; that is the way they affirm their autonomy. In this
situation, parents should calm down to reset new framework for their babies.
At that time, your babies have started
establishing independent, so let's make them feel that they have
"right": the right to choose story before bed, favorite pajamas or
stuffed animals. But just only 2-3 options so that it is not time-consuming. Do
not ask: "Do you want to go to bed now?" instead of that, ask:
"Do you want to go to bed now or 5 minutes later?" Although not having
wanted to sleep, they would still have to choose one.
In particular, before bedtime, children will
think a number of tricks to extend the time such as requiring one after
another, asking a lot, and so on. If you suspect that it is the way to extend
time of your children, you need to hard say 'No' to make them understand
they are not allowed to claim anything else.
3. The most whining
Whining, or crying is common cancer of
children in preschool age, and that is normal characteristic of psychology. At
this age, each child shows age crisis in a different way, some are fussy, stubborn,
some are tantrums, and some usually throw stuffs away or hit others. However, the
increase or decrease of this phenomenon depends on whether adults inadvertently
reinforce these behaviors or not.
When children are in crisis of crying, it
will be difficult to coax them. Many parents try to find ways from meeting their
babies’ demands to intimidating, even hitting for stopping them crying, and
then try to explain what they do is wrong and feel reassured when they promise
"I know. I will not it again". But just a while, they will re-temper because
their babies continue being fussy. And then repeating old scenarios will
frustrate and inhibit for both mothers and children.
Therefore, the best way when seeing your
children about to whine is doing some funny movements like making jokes,
tickling them, or drive into a compelling story to make them forget their
intention. Then when they calm down, you can talk to them about that bad
behavior, telling a story in which characters have the same action or playing the
role in that situation.
Whining,
or crying is common cancer of children in preschooler age, and that
psychological characteristic is normal.
4. ‘War among stars’
When having a sister or brother, preschool
children are easy to feel excluded from the final round of 'Little Idol' competition
by a new candidate who is strange. So please help them curb envy and remove
evil plot for their sister or brother by:
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Prior to be an elder brother/sister, let your
kid contact with many other babies around and show that becoming an elder
brother/sister is great. Then excitedly announce that it will soon be as an
elder brother/sister because a baby has already been born. If it understands
that the baby will bring it many wonderful things, it will be less stressful.
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When a baby is born, you should reward your kid
a gift in order that it is glad to be particularly concerned and no longer fear
the feeling of occupied throne.
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Never tell your child that you do not have time
for it because you are busy you’re your new baby. Always confirm that the elder
child still loved.
