Generations getting along Involving the whole family
Whether grandparents are
involved with your family on a daily basis, through occasional visits,
or are present in your memories and values, they play a role in raising
your child. They’re able to tell your child about past generations,
achievements, and the qualities your family share. Events from your own
upbringing can be especially fascinating, as your child tries to imagine
that you were once her age. When generations get together and tell
tales, look at old photographs, and recall the past, it establishes a
shared pride and strengthens your child’s sense of security and
belonging.
Appreciation
Grandparents may give
practical and emotional help such as childcare, parenting advice, and
listening to your woes and worries. They may look after your child on a
regular basis while you work. These are wonderful opportunities to spend
quality time with their grandchildren, but be aware that your
appreciation is always welcome. A sense that they are being used as
unpaid childcare or taken for granted can build resentment and undermine
good family relationships. It may also be important, as the years go
by, to check whether grandparents still feel they have the energy and
good health to look after their grandchildren. Even the most devoted may
eventually have to reduce the input they give.
Well-meant?
Having actively involved
grandparents isn’t always clear sailing. They may have strong views
about your parenting, or you could feel undermined, for example, if your
child is given treats and sweets by grandparents when you’ve said “no.”
More often than not, however, grandparents offer well-meant and welcome
suggestions, and it is up to you to make your mind up as to whether you
take their advice. There may be times, however, when you need to ask
them change their approach with your child. This is often more
successful than you expect if you are calm, assertive, and clear about
what this will achieve and how much it will help you.
Having fun together
A wonderful treasure trove of stories and history, grandparents are an important part of the family.
Generation game
Grandparents can teach your child the tricks that amused you during your younger days, and so pass down good memories.
