Women

In praise Of Changing Your Mind (Part 1)

- 9 Bad Habits That Can Cause Miscarriage
- How to have natural miscarriage
- Foods That Cause Miscarriage
- Signs Proving You Have Boy Pregnancy

We’ve all been there: you make a big decision, then realise – horror – it was completely the wrong one. These four women reveal the moment they took an embarrassing life U-turn – with brilliant results.

“I came home after emigrating to the Caribbean”

Popy Cyster, 28, is an artist and lives near Saffron Walden, Essex, with her husband Boz, 36.

 “Five years ago, in a complete leap of faith, I decided to move to the Caribbean. As an aspiring artist, a studio in Antigua felt like the ultimate lifestyle – I want to escape the pressure of working in London. I had two weeks of tearful farewell drinks and leaving my parents behind at the airport was heart-wrenching, but equally, I’d never felt so excited.

Description: Popy Cyster

Popy Cyster

My plan was to stay forever, with the couple of one-week trips home a year to sell my paintings to the galleries I already worked with. I moved to a tiny one-bedroom bungalow with a tin roof surrounded by banana trees and with a beach at the end of the road. I soon settled into island life. I was never lonely – I made more friends than I knew what to do with.

Description: In June 2009, I came back to sell some work and it was like seeing my old life with new eyes. I decided to move back to England.

In June 2009, I came back to sell some work and it was like seeing my old life with new eyes. I decided to move back to England.

But, after about 18 months, I began to feel the pull of home. At first it was small things, but after missing two friends’ weddings because I couldn’t afford to travel back, I started to feel out of the loop. A few weeks later, my brother called to say he was going to propose to his girlfriend, whom I barely knew, and when my mum phoned to say my uncle had fallen serious ill, my bubble burst. Around the same time, a friend was diagnosed with cancer and my sun-soaked  life suddenly felt stale. In June 2009, I came back to sell some work and it was like seeing my old life with new eyes. I decided to move back to England.

At first, it felt like I was returning with my tail between my legs, especially when some friend raised their eyebrows and said I was crazy to leave ‘paradise’. Of course it’s embarrassing when a life-changing plan doesn’t work out, but at least I trried it and my priorities are in a better place. I love knowing I can be with my family, including my baby nephew, in under an hour. And I meet my husband Boz during my first week back. We’d never have crossed paths if I hadn’t come home, so I’m forever thankful that I changed my mind. As beautiful as Antigua is. I’ve learned that the real substance or life is where your loved ones are, and I’ll never take that for granted.” 

“I called off my wedding weeks before the big day”

Patricia Dente Haimes, 37, FROM London, is creator of Little BU. She lives with her husband Matthew, 42, and their six-month-old son, Grayson.

“The proposal was just as I had dreamed: Edwin was on bended knee on a rooftop terrace in Florence, asking me to marry him. In hindsight, his speech lacked emotion, but I was too dazzled by the three-carat diamond ring and excitement of finally getting married to notice. We’d met at university, where I fell for his confidence and good looks. Over the year, I convinced myself we were meant to be together.

Patricia Dente Haimes

We decided to get married in Tuscany the following year. I spent weeks hand-making my invitations and found a stunning Carolina Herrera wedding dress. But at a fitting, nine months into our engagement, I looked at my beautiful gown in the mirror and had the sickening feeling that marrying Edwin might not be the right decision.

We had started living separate lives. Edwin wasn’t interested in the wedding and the physical side of our relationship was non-existent, but we’d spent $30,000 on fees and deposits, and everyone’s flights were booked. One day, seven weeks before the wedding. I came home early as a romantic surprise; his lack of enthusiasm was like a kick in the stomach. We had a row and I told him it was over. He didn’t put up a flight, which confirmed everything, so I drove to my sister’s to drop the bombshell that the wedding was off.

Description: When I found out Edwin had taken another woman on our honeymoon. I booked an Eat-Pray-Love-type trip alone to Costa Rica, Hawaii and Mexico. I came back refreshed and ready to move on.

When I found out Edwin had taken another woman on our honeymoon. I booked an Eat-Pray-Love-type trip alone to Costa Rica, Hawaii and Mexico. I came back refreshed and ready to move on.

I was overwhelmed with shame. I broke the news in tears to my closest friends and my mum worked her way through the rest of the guest list. The aftermath of he break-up was horrendous, especially when I found out Edwin had taken another woman on our honeymoon. I booked an Eat-Pray-Love-type trip alone to Costa Rica, Hawaii and Mexico. I came back refreshed and ready to move on.

Had I gone ahead, we’d have divorced within months. Changing my mind, especially so publicly, was the hardest thing I’ve been through, but it led me to my husband Matthew. We met on a blind date three year later and got married in Kensington Town Hall in 2010 with just four guests. It was perfect. I gave birth to Grayson in January and count myself incredibly lucky not to have got what I once thought I wanted.”

Top search
Women
- 6 Ways To Have a Natural Miscarriage
- Foods That Cause Miscarriage
- Losing Weight In A Week With Honey
- Can You Eat Crab Meat During Pregnancy?
- Grape Is Pregnant Women’s Friend
- 4 Kinds Of Fruit That Can Increase Risk Of Miscarriage
- Some Drinks Pregnant Women Should Say No With
- Signs Proving You Have Boy Pregnancy
- Why Do Pregnant Women Have Stomachache When Eating?
- Top Foods That Pregnant Women Should Be Careful Of
- 6 Kinds Of Vegetable That Increase Risk Of Miscarriage
Other
Women
- Charlize Theron: "I Have To Be Disciplined, It's Part Of My Job"
- Take Charge of Your Body
- Organic Living : Organic truth or tale ?
- Live Healthy
- How to Drop 2 Kg?
- A Healthy Foundation
- Find Balance Every Day! (Part 3)
- Lost Your Sexual Confidence? 5 Ways To Get It Back!
- The Worst Club in the World
- Pure Heart : Investing in women
 
women
Top keywords
women
Miscarriage Pregnant Pregnancy Pregnancy day by day Pregnancy week by week Losing Weight Stress Placenta Makeup Collection
Women
Top 5
women
- Cinnamon: A natural treatment for Polycystic Ovary Syndrome?
- 5 Tips for Safe Exercise During Pregnancy
- Four Natural Ways Alternative Medicine Can Help You Get Pregnant (part 2)
- Four Natural Ways Alternative Medicine Can Help You Get Pregnant (part 1)
- Is Your Mental Health Causing You to Gain Weight (part 2) - Bipolar Disorder Associated with Weight Gain