2 year-old children have the golden
developing steps that parents shouldn’t skip.
When some children begin to toddle, they
bring the new surprising for their parents every day. However, sometimes
parents wonder that whether their children develop faster or slower than their
peers. We will answer parents’ answer by finding out about 4 following big
developing stages:
Children know to say and use language
2-year-old
children have their own language and sometimes only they can understand that
language.
Normally, children that are from 18 to 24
months old begin to say the simple sentences and they can have short
conversations with adults. However, in this time, babies’ words aren’t adequate
to help children express their all knowledge.
Challenge
for parents
When Mary was 2 old, her parents sometimes
shook their heads because they couldn’t understand what she was expressing.
Even when your children know how to pronounce clearly, you feel confused about
using the words that only children understand. For example, there is a period
that Mary called all adults “Mother” and when she looked any apple, she would
point to the apple and say “The apple of mother”.
Not only meet problems about expressing,
many children misunderstand the things that adults say. For example, in the
case of Tony, his mother had miscarriage and she told him that “I have just
lost baby”. This thing made Toney feel scared: Mother would lose Tony.
What
do parents need to do?
Patience is a necessary thing. You should
give children more time and you shouldn’t expect too much because this thing
can make you feel disappointed. Sometimes, children don’t say anything with
you, they only want to cry and this is the time that children aren’t patient
enough to express by words. When babies cry, this thing doesn’t mean that they
feel hungry or painful. In this case, maybe they like that ball, they cannot
express and even no one can understand them.
You
should create a lot of chances for children to talk.
You should create a lot of chances for
children to talk. This thing will be more advantageous when children have the
older brothers/sisters because this thing will make children have other people
to sympathize and understand children more. Parents shouldn’t attach special
importance to correcting grammar for children because it can make children feel
bored and they don’t want to say. Instead of it, you should try to understand
the things that children want and stimulate children to express comfortably.
Children want to do everything by themselves
When
babies are 2 years old, they like to discover and do everything by themselves.
When Mary was 18 months old, she asked her
mother to hold broom and sweep house together with her mother. Most children in
this age want to do everything by themselves, even they do the work of adults.
Challenge
to parents
Parents felt that it took a lot of time because
instead of taking 1 minute to wear Mary’s shoes, it took 10 minutes when Mary
requested “Let me wear my shoes by themselves”.
What
do parents need to do?
Her parents might adjust to time for each
schedule to working to give Mary condition to do the things that she wanted. At
the beginning, Mary’s mother felt impatient, but she also encouraged herself:
“That thing will be very good. It will help Mary be more independent”.
Experts also agree with thinking of Mary’s
mother: Parents shouldn’t do the things instead of children or help children
solve the results that they do incorrectly. Parents must be the people that
show children the way to do everything that is suitable with their ability by
themselves.
Parents
should show babies the way to do instead of doing everything for them.
Children ask you let them solve by themselves
Before 18 months old, most children don’t
consider that they are independent ones; they always follow their parents,
especially mother. However, this thing completely changes when children enter
to the second age. Children begin to say “no” with their parents to emphasize
“I am the person that decides everything”.
Challenge
to parents
Once babies act oppositely with the things
that you hope, you will feel that it seems to be: or you force children to do
everything according to your idea or let children do by themselves. However,
you can recognize a contradiction: You don’t want to make your children lose
self-control. In addition, you also want to set up the limitation with your
children.
What
do parents need to do?
Parents can agree to let children do
anything that they want anytime you can and when mothers ensure that that thing
is safe, suitable and doesn’t have any inconvenience. Parents need to try to
balance so that everything won’t depend on parents’ or children’s idea.
You need to pay attention that when you ask
our children to follow you, parents shouldn’t make children misunderstand that
parents are the adults, so they have right to force their children follow their
idea. In this case, parents need to explain to help children understand why
their parents do so (to be safe, quick or another reason). You should repeat
your explanation when they don’t agree or don’t like the reason that you give
them.
Know to sympathize
When children are 2 years old, they begin
to express the first connections between their emotion and their behavior when
they contact with other people. This is really a big change and it will make
parents be moved with the comforting gestures of children when their parents
feel sad or meet the difficult things.
When
children are 2 years old, they begin to express the first connections between
their emotion and their behavior when they contact with other people.
Challenge
to parents
To parents, it’s unhappy when you see that
your children cry, especially when you know your children are crying because
they are sad or suffer great misery. When Mary was 2 years old, she used to sob
because she loved her cousin when that cousin fell. At that time, Mary’s mother
thought that she needed to be cautious to express emotion in front of Mary.
Mary’s mother worried that with her age, she had the unnecessary mediation.
However, actually, she was very sensitive. Although her mother tried, she could
read and understand the expressions of her mother’s face.
What
do parents have to do?
It’s normal when your children are sad
because someone is crying or harmed. Instead of trying to make everything
better, mothers should help children understand their emotion.
Sometimes, tear isn’t the bad thing.
Mothers shouldn’t be hurried to comfort children, they should try to define the
reason why their children are sad. Many parents don’t want their children to
cry; however, if children cry because they have just beaten their friends, this
is a good thing.
Parents don’t need to hide their own
emotion. You shouldn’t hesitate and should tell your children that you are
angry, sad or disappointed. You need to avoid using the words such as “You are
making me very angry”. This thing will help children recognize that they won’t
have the responsibility about the things that they cause for their parents.
The
important changes of 2-year-old children also bring their parents the big
happiness.
Although the important changes of 2-year-
old children make their parents worry and have a lot of difficulties, they
bring the big happiness for their parents in this period. Mary’s mother
confided “When I recognize the changes of my daughter, I seem to receive a
gift. It is similar the emotion of in the journey of a flight, I can discover
the interesting things more and more. My happiness is bigger than challenges in
finding ways to educate my child best”.
