How much time you'll need to spend on your caregiving
endeavors will depend on several factors including how much help your
elder needs, where your elder is living—in his own home, in your home,
in a retirement community, or in a senior care facility—and how much of
the care you'll provide personally. On average, a caregiver devotes 18
hours a week toward assisting the elder. Our goal here is to show you
some practical ways to work this new time commitment into your schedule,
as well as some creative ways to handle your added tasks more
efficiently.
Assess what help your elder needs Determine tasks and frequencies Schedule tasks in your planner
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Determining Eldercare Needs
The fundamentals of
scheduling remain the same in an eldercare situation as they are for any
other aspect of your life. You'll want to take some time to assess the
extent of the eldercare that's needed, creating to do lists, assigning
frequencies and time frames to tasks, and then scheduling the items into
your family's planner.
If your situation
involves a parent or relative who is still living in her own home, you
may find that you have a list for running her household that is almost
parallel to the one for your own household. If
your elder is living in your home, you won't have many additional
household tasks at all. You'll want to treat the elder's needs the same
way you treat everyone else's in the family. You should schedule time
for personal care, enrichment activities, hobbies, socializing, and free
time. If the elder can't be left alone in the house, you'll have to
make arrangements for the times you'll be away the same as you would for
a young child. tip
As your elder's
sight, hearing, mental acuity, or mobility diminishes, safety becomes an
increasing concern. If you're responsible for your elder's living
environment, make sure you have replacing smoke and carbon monoxide
detector batteries scheduled as a task in your planner every six months.
If your elder doesn't have these detectors, make sure you install them
right away.
If
your elder lives in a retirement community, an assisted-living
facility, or a nursing home, you'll want to make your to do list with a
clear understanding of what your care responsibilities are.
Adjusting Your Family's Schedule to Accommodate Eldercare
Just as any new undertaking—having a baby, starting school, moving to a
new home—requires a reevaluation and adjustment in your schedule, so
will the addition of eldercare responsibilities. You may find that you
need to reallocate the chore load among your family members. If so, look
for ways to make the new tasks seem as minimal as you can. For example,
you may find that some members of your family would be happy to trade
in some household chores in exchange for helping more with the elder's
personal care, whereas other family members would rather do the
housework. Allocating the tasks according to these natural preferences
will keep your family's collective stress lower. You may also find that
you need to do some explaining—or negotiation—with your elderly
relative. For example, she may have always scrubbed the kitchen on
Monday, but if someone in your family has time to do it only on
Saturday, then she'll have to cope with the change. |
tip Grandparents
love to spend time with their grandchildren, and older people really
enjoy music—especially if their hearing is still good. If you have a
child who is taking music lessons, you can have him practice with his
grandparent as an audience. He'll accomplish three things at once:
visiting with his grandparent and practicing his instrument; plus,
because he'll be keeping your elder company, you'll be free to do other
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If you're helping your
aging relative deal with major life changes such as selling a home and
downsizing or moving to a retirement facility, then you may need to
suspend some of your regularly scheduled activities for a while. You may
also need to ask your employer to make some workplace accommodations
for you, such as changing your work hours or adjusting your workload. If
you take the time to create a preliminary schedule of what you need to
do for your elder, then you'll have a realistic idea of what adjustments
will work.
tip
Many
businesses—grocery stores, pharmacies, dry cleaners—provide delivery
services if you ask. Using services that deliver to your elder's home
has the added benefit of having people who check on the well-being of
your elder in the normal course of their work.
To be more
efficient—which not only will save you time but also reduce your
stress—look for ways to consolidate some of the tasks that you need to
do for both yourself and your elder. Here are some examples: |
Banking.
If you're handling your elder's banking—or even just helping him with
it—consider switching his—or your—accounts so they are all at the same
bank and you can take care of all of the banking with one trip. You may
also want to sign up for online banking if it suits your style and helps
your schedule. You'll still want to have both of your accounts at the
same bank so you'll have to deal with only one system. 
Bill
paying. Ask companies—credit card, utility, insurance, and so on—to
adjust the monthly payment dates on your and your elder's accounts to
fit your schedule. Also, consider opting for online or automatic
bill-paying options if they'll save you time. Grocery
shopping. Shop at the same store as your elder so both of you can do
your shopping on the same trip. If you'll need to unload groceries at
your elder's house before taking your groceries home, keep an insulated
container, such as a cooler, in your car to keep your highly perishable
items cold. Personal grooming. Use the same hairdresser or barber as your elder and schedule your appointments at the same time. Preparing meals. When you're cooking for your family, prepare and freeze an extra portion for your elder.
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Things You'll Need
The names and phone numbers of your elder's doctors A complete list of your elder's medications Your elder's medical insurance information Your elder's local phone book Extra keys to your elder's residence
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