When your children are too young, you don’t
need to tell the truth about all the things that your children don’t
understand.
A silly lie can make you lose the faith
that your children lay on you, smart parents will know how to keep their
children happy and healthy. The truth can be very valuable but, in some points
of time, you shouldn’t tell your children about it.
Do
the selection before deciding telling your children the truth.
When your children don’t understand
Terrorist attacks or building collapses…
must be out of children’s reach of knowledge. You can’t protect your children
from everything. According to Dr. Marilyn Heins, writer of “Parentips for
effective” and “Enjoyable parenting”, in that case, you can tell your children
that you’ll always the one who defend and protect them. You can tell your
children bout dangers that are being mentioned in the daily news and are far
away from your babies so that they don’t need to be afraid of them.
When it’s your problem
If you have insomnia because of the concern
of losing the house which has been collateralized and you’ve just had a layoff,
keep it to yourself. According to PhD Vicki Panaccione, the founder of Better
Parenting Institute (USA), parents should play protective roles. If you’re at
home and looking for a job, you definitely, can’t hide it from your children,
but you should assure them of static family finance. Tell them that everything
is alright; you’d better not let them worry.
Adult stories
When
the married couples are in war, the argument shouldn’t involve the children.
According Dr. Susan Newman, the writer of
13 books about family relationship, when the married couples are in war, the
argument shouldn’t involve the children. Parent should treat children normally.
And if the children query about parent’s attitude, let them know that their
question needs time answering.
When children are really weak at something
For example, they can’t catch a ball or
still slur even when they’re in grade 5. PhD and associate professor Richard
Gallagher, who has been studying about child and adolescent psychiatry, those
kinds of weaknesses should be solve in a subtle way. Take the children to
classes, playground… You should focus on and encourage your children’s efforts,
do not notice too much on the result.
When
children are really weak at something, you should focus on and encourage your
children’s efforts, do not notice too much on the result.
Let the personal things in the past be personal
Complaining that you had never touched a
woman or alcohol until you were 21 just makes you to be a liar in front of your
teenage children. You should only tell your children about your selected wild
teenage stories. According to PhD, professor of pediatrics from Kansas Michael
Rapoff University, you can also tell your children about your bad behavior
which now has turned to the life lessons helping you to grow up.
