If you are blank of raising children, those
tips following will help you become children’s good models.
Most of parents find it extremely difficult
to apply discipline on children. Especially, when children tend to have
defensive attitude and reactions when doing something wrong, it’s more
difficult for parents to apply rules on them.
You should know that practicing discipline
methods is one of things that make you good parents. Children who can follow
rules can recognize what they’ve done without other people’s reminders.
The followings are disciplines that have
been practiced by many parents and brought wonderful results. If you are
worried about raising children, you can take notice of those tips to become
good parents.
1. The art of using time
When
children do something wrong, let them sit alone in a corner separated from
parents and their friends in a certain period of time.
This is a kind of disciplines that are
applied by many parents and teachers to cope with stubborn children. When
children do something wrong, let them sit alone in a corner separated from
parents and their friends in a certain period of time. Most of them want to get
out of the isolated situation and start reconsidering their actions.
Therefore, time isn’t supposed to be long.
According to specialists, to children who are 2 years old, the amount of time
they are isolated should be 2 minutes; plus 1 minute each age increased.
However, the punishing time shouldn’t be over 5 minutes because it can cause
disadvantage reaction to children. The method shouldn’t be applied on children
who are under 18 months old. This kind of discipline is considered to be
effective to children who are under 10 years old.
The place where children stay during the
isolated period should be separated, quiet and not interfere with other daily
activities. The complete quietness can make children have deep feeling about
the isolation and change their behavior.
2. The art of compliments
The art of compliment can bring many benefits
for making children to follow the rule. This is a discipline that is
recommended by specialist.
When
children do something right, give them things that they’re looking for
When children do something right, give them
things that they’re looking for. This will help them feel happy. Give prize for
a right doing and a good attitude will make sure that children will understand
the importance of the good behavior and try to learn more of it.
The prize doesn’t have to be expensive,
toys or other material things. The prize can be simply a loving hug, a kiss on
the cheek or a few compliments. And of course, when children do wrong things,
there must be no compliment. The retribution that doesn’t happen at the right
moment will spoil children and make them unable to recognize what’re the right
things to do, good attitudes to be, ones help them receive compliments.
3. The art of negative increase
The art is completely different from the
later. In this case, the wrong behavior of children will be marked and used as
a cornerstone to prevent children from doing wrong again.
When
children break the rule, you will give them punishments by not doing their
requirements or not letting them play their favorite toys.
When children break the rule, you will give
them punishments by not doing their requirements or not letting them play their
favorite toys. That method based on refusal can make children know that their
bad behaviors are unacceptable to others and to know that if they want to get
what they want, they need to change their behaviors. Children need to
understand that they get refusals from their bad behaviors.
Most of children will give reactions to the
situation by changing their behaviors in order to get what they want. The
technique will help them automatically recognize their behaviors and change
when knowing that the behaviors are not allowed. However, parents shouldn’t
apply the method regularly or children will be very confused.
4. The art of teaching
Every child should only be punished after
learning what’s wrong and right. You need to teach them which one is allowed
and which one is not before saying ‘no’ to children.
You
need to teach them which one is allowed and which one is not before saying ‘no’
to children.
The most effective method is to show the
rules first, then giving compliments when children doing right things. When
children do right things, give them a small prize. If you do that, children
will remember good behaviors.
Make a list of rules and hang it on a
regular place in the house. Those rules will show children what is right and
also the best way to let children know which behavior is considered to be
good.
5. The consistency of using discipline methods
No matter which method you use, the
consistency in actions is important and the key of success. It depends on the
age of your children that you have suitable methods but, above all, you have to
meet the end of them.
There’re many parents make mistakes about
the inconsistency: they might use the discipline to their children today but by
some reasons, they spoil the children. When children want to deny their
mistakes by crying, they often make the most of it. For that reason, you need
to have consistency in applying disciplines to children. The consistency is one
indispensable thing that makes your effort work and makes children understand
what they do.
