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Parenting is a complicate job. There’s no perfect and specific instruction about it.

It’s necessary to say that as raising children is a complicate job, there’s no perfect and specific instruction about it.

However, to be a good father/mother, we have to read lots of books, newspapers, ask many people for advice and opinions. The more we get to know it the more information we found that is not reasonable. Therein, 6 raising children ways below tend to bring bad effects.

Giving children too much

All parents love their children. That makes them have the idea that the more they give the better their children will be for example, buy many toys for their children, let children sleep too much and play game all day…

Some of them even think that refusing children’s requires is similar to hurting the children and turn themselves into their children’s enemies. However, contrary to the concepts above, the more they give the less they receive and their children have more bad and stable habits, such as asking for materials, money…

You shouldn’t buy too much toys for your children.

You shouldn’t buy too much toys for your children.

Solution

Parents should limit satisfying children’s material needs. For example, you can limit buying toys for your children and only buy toys in the appropriate time. If you just go with unreasonable requires of children, you have to work harder or reduce other expenses. Furthermore, children won’t be able to understand the money value; they tend to have bad habits and finally turn out to be dreamers.

 

Giving too much to children can make them misbehaved.

Giving too much to children can make them misbehaved.

Lacking discipline

Many families have lax discipline. For example, if children in this family bully other children, their parents will praise them instead of educating. This is an inconsiderate doing and will cause stable bad habits to children.

In fact, there’re parents that can’t distinguish what is right and wrong when applying discipline on the children; they don’t know how to mold children’s characters when they were young, which leads to the fact that in the long run, they can cause serious consequences that might be illegal. Because parents don’t show them the obvious line that separates good and evil, they can accidental make them naughty.

You need to create clear and consistent discipline in raising children.

You need to create clear and consistent discipline in raising children.

Solution

You need to create clear and consistent discipline in raising children. If children do something wrong in public, classes or at home, parents have to teach them the right thing to do specifically so that they can understand and recognize their wrong.

Always standing for children

In the case parents always stand for their children without concerning whether it’s right or wrong. For example, when teachers of their children and neighbors complain about the children’s bad behaviors, they still fight for their children and have extreme actions.   

Some people even ignore their children’s faultiness on purpose and don’t show any in-time molding. In the worse situation, they even consider their children to be the best and their children’s faultiness is due to other people. The result of the fact that children are getting deeper into the wrong and continue doing bad things will gradually lead them to trespass and make them become bad citizens.

Solution

In the case teachers or babysitters of your children reflex about your children’s failing, you have to be calm and carefully consider about what they say, get down to bed-rock to know if it’s wrong or right instead of getting angry and fighting for your children blindfold. If what they say is right, it’ll help you to mold your children’s characters.

If your children are wrong, you shouldn’t be so upset and tell them off or punish them but should choose the right time to make them understand that what they did is wrong.

If your children are wrong, you shouldn’t be so upset and tell them off or punish them but should choose the right time to make them understand that what they did is wrong.

If your children are wrong, you shouldn’t be so upset and tell them off or punish them but should choose the right time to make them understand that what they did is wrong. That will help they improve their characters and you’ll love them more afterwards because the more important thing is to help them to recognize and redress their mistake with the support of their parents.

Fighting in front of children

One of parent’s mistakes in raising children is fighting in front of them. That impolite behavior can cause negative effects on children’s state of mind.

Children who have to witness parent’s fights are scared of those fights. They tend to run away and  have negative behavior like being addicted to drug, drop classes or go away from home because they feel like they’re abandoned and nobody loves them.

Solution

Parents should respect and behave politely to each other even when there’s no love. You should avoid fighting in front of children. In the case you’re going to have a divorce, you should be polite and limit making negative effects on children.

It’s necessary for children to receive psychological therapies in order not to be shocked when their parents are no longer live together, to help them recognize the truth and get used to it.

Lacking exemplars

Life is naturally complicated. There’re married couples who are wrong models for children; they talk to each other rudely. Those behaviors of parents really fear the children, stay in their memories and negatively stimulate them to be like their parents.

Do not let your anger be in charge and using abusive language to blame each other.

Do not let your anger be in charge and using abusive language to blame each other.

Solution

You should behave normally and politely to each other. Do not let your anger be in charge and using abusive language to blame each other. If your relationship is too intense, releasing each other is good for you and your children.

Playing the “shadow” role

One of biggest mistake that happens in the modern world or the era of market economy is many parents just play the “shadow” roles and give no care to their children, drop the raising responsibility on grandparents’, relative’s or nanny’ lap.

They choose to have the freedom in earning money and enjoy the beer and kittles. According to psychologists, children need maternal love and if they don’t receive it when they’re young, their recognition will be falsified and go to unexpected places.   

No matter how busy you are, you should spend time will children to take care of them.

No matter how busy you are, you should spend time will children to take care of them.

Solution

No matter how busy you are, you should spend time will children to take care of them. That will help them to develop the mother-child connection and their talents, improve their disadvantages and the natural bad habits.

This is an important part of life so raising children and taking care of them are essential aims and able to improve human natural disadvantages.

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