There are many ways for parents to be more
relax when raising toddlers!
Although most parents know the situation
will make their children show the bad character, they often fall into that
situation unreasonably. Toddlers are not professors of psychology, but they
understand us. They put the detonator ready to blow up their parents but if we
take a step forward, be wise and calm, the detonator will faint away.
There are many ways for parents to be more
relax when raising toddlers!
Do not try to find the mistake
Many adults want to find the errors of
their children. When parents take their child to the doctor, they always remind
"You have to look at the doctor to talk to him!", "You have to
say please!", "Let your arms crossed!", "Do not touch that
toy!", "Sit up straightly!"... There is nothing friendly in this
atmosphere, every small movement of children makes the situation stressful.
Discipline like this is counterproductive.
You should pay attention to the main things, the most important thing and
ignore the other things.
It
is not difficult to teach toddlers to be obedient.
Avoid escalation
Many parents keep sticking to the small
acts, they talk again and again until they become the expected events. They sit
at home and child only leaves one piece of cake on the carpet. They shouted:
"Pick up fast!"; "Put it into the trash now!"...
How could a piece of cake make you angry?
If you ignore the petty things, life will become easier.
When it's done, forget it
Children forget quickly, but parents do
not. If children do things to be punished, you should punish them at that
moment, then forgive and be happy with them. If parents are hard to forget
things, life will decrease faster because they must often endure the psychological
war. The higher the stress is, the naughtier the children are, the family will
be unhappy.
Anger only makes parents to have high blood
pressure or cancer, it does not help the child to develop stably.
Children
forget quickly, but parents do not. If children do things to be punished, you
should punish them at that moment, then forgive and be happy with them
Lower your voice
People say noisy music can make children
want to dance, if an orchestral trumpet is played, it will make thousands of
soldiers step and fight.
Similarly, children living in noisy
environment will be disturbed. In a large family that adults insult each other,
kids fight and TV is turn on at maximum volume, it is difficult to apply
discipline to a child. Peace and quietness are better for children. Children
behave and think best when there is no noise and disturbance in surrounding
environment.
Do not do too many activities
Activities will affect the people around.
When children play in a group together, your youngest child will like to
participate. Toddlers love to play, run and laugh with parents. If you take the
time to tease and play with them, you have to give them time to calm down.
If children are actively playing and they
are forced to sit at the table, they cannot have right behavior. Before
bedtime, children should not participate in games or anything too exciting and
fun.
Accept inevitable things
You can reduce stress by looking at the
life with the accepting philosophy. There are things happen to us and the
children that we cannot avoid. If you are angry or worried, they still happen.
Therefore, let relax and approach Buddhism philosophy.
When your children are sick, they will wake
up frequently in the middle of the night whether you accept it or not. Let's
take advantage of the time you can sleep and grateful it, if you blame the
situation, you cannot sleep when having time.
When
your children are sick, they will wake up frequently in the middle of the night
whether you accept it or not
In parenting, it is difficult to look at
life through the eyes of philosophy, but if you keep crashing into the wall, it
will be useless. I do not mean you put your arms crossed watching or chewing
gum. We need to open our eyes and look, do not act fast, we must use our head.
Immutable rules: In this house, we have unified
regulations
Children cannot be happy if parents and
grandparents teach them in different ways. If one day, children are guilty,
they still confuse and do not know what they do is guilty or not. If the father
said: "Do this!" The mother said: "No, You have to do in another
way", discipline will have no effect.
There is no family that parents completely
agree about teaching children. Although there are different opinions, but we
still need to work together, express and apply a unified discipline to children
in the family.
Today the police allow you to drive on the
right side of the road, tomorrow they arrest you if you do not drive on the
left, this will make you confused, insecure and angry.
Similarly, when children live in an
environment where the rules are inconsistent and constantly changing, they will
become angry, irritable and be hard to teach.
Some couples are stubborn and do not
respect each other at all, so every time they apply discipline with their
children, they will fight. Their children will soon realize the conflict and
stand for one to make their disagreement not be harmonized. When there is a big
difference between the opinions of parents, you cannot teach the kids until you
come to an agreement.
