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Emotional difficulties

There is always a worry, when trying to conceive, that it can take over your home life to some extent, and effect your parenting of the child you already have. Zita West sympathizes with parents in this predicament.

“I often ask women whether they’re enjoying the child they have, and most are, but they feel guilty and can’t explain why,” she says. “The desire for a second child is so strong, that a mother may not feel her family is complete without another, or without producing a sibling for the child she has. Many women feel too silly and greedy to ask for help, and they’re unlikely to get sympathy from, for instance, childless couples who envy their position and feel they should be grateful for the infant they have.”

I often ask women whether they’re enjoying the child they have, and most are, but they feel guilty and can’t explain why,” she says.

I often ask women whether they’re enjoying the child they have, and most are, but they feel guilty and can’t explain why,” she says.

Other women get stressed because their family is not working out precisely according to the ideal plan they’d always imagined, fretting over time gaps between children, and how this might effect schooling arrangements, or the closeness of the relationship between siblings.

She urges these women to accept the innate unpredictability of life, and that having fixed ideas about wanting particular children at particular times can work against you, adding to stress.

A small percentage of women West sees have been traumatized because of difficulties or complications during their previous birth and have become frightened of labor, and therefore – sometimes subliminally – frightened of becoming pregnant. Whether or not these women subconsciously “sabotage” or put up psychological or physical barriers to conceiving is debatable, but West says talking about a previous difficult experience is essential.

“If they talk about it, they begin to rationalize it and accept that they were traumatized by what happened to them,” she says. “If you get down after a difficult delivery, you can develop postnatal depression which can stay with you. So much of the work I do with women is to do with their mindset: if you allay their fears, often pregnancy just happens. This also often works when couples stop trying extremely hard to conceive. I often tell women, ‘The baby will come when the baby will come.’”

If you get down after a difficult delivery, you can develop postnatal depression which can stay with you.

If you get down after a difficult delivery, you can develop postnatal depression which can stay with you.

The good news, says Dr. Walsh, is that couples can and do normally succeed second time around, although IVF may be the necessary option for older women.

For others, regular (three-weekly) sex throughout the month is likely to result in a conception within two years. Either way, do not be afraid or shy of seeking help, advice or reassurance.

“Do go and speak with your doctor,” summarizes West. “And don’t be afraid to rally support around you from friends and family. It will really help.”

“And don’t be afraid to rally support around you from friends and family. It will really help.”

“And don’t be afraid to rally support around you from friends and family. It will really help.”

What you can do to increase fertility?

A healthy and stress-free lifestyle are two of the most important factors in increasing fertility. But it is vital that you get your doctor to check whether anything physical is stopping you or your partner from conceiving a second time around. Also, start taking prenatal vitamins and remember to stop taking your daily vitamins when you do.

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