Many mothers think that breastfeeding at
fixed time is good. In fact, that is not totally correct.
Breastfeeding at fixed time is not good
Love between mother and baby is more
important through breastfeeding. Some people said that breastfeeding at fixed
time was good even when babies cried. The more babies cry, the better their
lungs operate. Crying is babies’ duty and they will know how endurance is. But
in fact, that is wrong thought because it can harm babies. The children with
many different ways will try their best to transmit their needs to mothers.
Crying because of hunger is one of these ways. However, if mothers continue
ignoring babies when they cry, they will understand that crying is not an
effective way to express their feeling to their mothers. Next time, babies will
not want to transmit their moods to mothers any more.
Mistakes when breastfeeding babies
At a certain point of time, mothers
breast-feed babies even when they do not want; but when they want, they cannot.
That has harmed accuracy of babies’ body sense since the first days of their
life. Breastfeeding according to schedule, ignoring real needs of babies are
not scientific methods. Eating cycle is different in each baby depending on the
demand of their body.
Breastfeeding
at fixed time is not good.
Training babies to eat at fixed time seems
to make mothers more leisure, but that loses body feeling and good nature of
kids. Therefore, they will create habits of not transmitting right feelings,
easing to be bored, and discontent in kids.
In addition, there is one more wrong
thought: mothers themselves do not care for kids, or do not share the bed with
them. For babies, touching mother’s body is extremely significant. Let hold
babies in your arms as much as possible.
Mothers ask nanny to look after their
children when babies are only 2 months old. It’s impossible to meet demand of
closing mother of babies. As a result, they do not drink milk, vomit when
drinking, or suffer from diarrhea. If mothers fix their mistakes when
identifying that their children are lacking of embracement, these phenomena
will be over, and kids will plump up.
Kids always follow their mothers if they
are not received love as much as they want from their mothers. This expression
is created because demand of closing mother from birth is not satisfied.
Kids
always follow their mothers if they are not received love as much as they want
from their mothers
Because of working, for example, mothers
cannot care for their children, do not express their love, and babies will
establish gradually anger in the soul at some point of time. That is the origin
to cause problem later. Children are always adherent their mothers and cannot
be independent people.
Professor Sugita gave an example to
illustrate for this issue; that is the story of a boy student Akihiro who has
failed entrance exam of university four times. Akihiro had good achievement of
study, and was evaluated as an overqualified student to get into top national
universities. However, he could not pass the entrance exam many times. The
reason was that when he was a little boy, his mother had to work due to
difficult life. Obviously, his mother could not care for him carefully. At some
points, Akihiro felt angry because his mother did not give all her love to him.
Although he underwent many dissatisfying
situations, his mother still ignored; and then he decided to revenge by
intentionally failing the exam in order to draw his parents’ attention.
Therefore, if babies are divided with their parents, there is always pathogen
in their soul and it can develop anytime. At the first short period of life, if
limited love and injured soul, babies cannot understand the world around when
growing up. Especially, when both wives and husbands have to work as today,
this trend becomes more popular.
