Your children can be good even without any
punishment.
How to create your children habits of
respecting the rule and living disciplinal life without punishment must be in
very much in concerns.
Let’s check out those following shares and
educating methods for children in particular situations.
Your
children can be good even without any punishment.
Children don’t want to go to bed on time
Children often don’t recognize the
importance of regular activities, especially of sleeping on time and fully.
Usually, they are always attracted to games and forget the sleepiness and
determinedly refuse going to bed without any concern that it’s very late.
Usually,
they are always attracted to games and forget the sleepiness and determinedly
refuse going to bed without any concern that it’s very late.
What
should moms do?
Control your children’s sleeping time and
don’t let them be arbitrary, sleep whenever they want. To settle your children
in sleeping on time, you should be patient and ingenious. Every day, instead of
order them like: “Brush your teeth, wear your pajama and get into bed!” You should
give them joy in sleeping preparations, like: ”You want to brush teeth or wear
pajama first?”. That will make them feel comfortable and responsible for their
actions.
A picture of a sound sleep of their
favorite cartoon character or friends placing next to the bed can remind them
sleeping.
Children do naughty things in public
Children are not yet able to control their
behaviors and feelings. For examples, when you’re shopping, busy with choosing
vegetables, you children insist you on buying them remote control car. And when
you say ‘no’, they still keep on nagging or even cry loudly and cause great
attention. In the situation, you should teach them 2 things: one is how to
behave rightly and the other is ways to control their desires.
You
need to teach them about the limitation, controlling their desires instead of
showing them off by being upset.
So,
what should you do?
Be calm as well as possible then give back
the shopping cart and take them outside. Sit with them on chairs on the
sidewalk or seats in the car and say that you’re only ready to listen to them
when they stop crying.
When children are calm and stop crying, you
should let them know what they’ve just done is wrong. After that, you can take
them inside again and control you children by say to them that today you only
buy household appliances and the toys they want are only bought in special
occasions such as their birthday or when they get good learning results at the
end of the final semester.
You will teach them about the limitation, controlling
their desires instead of showing them off by being upset.
Children fight over toys with other children
You should also teach them right ways to
play with friends. Children can play peacefully with friend at the present and
fight over toys or crayons with their friends in the next minutes. And if they
can’t get it, they will cry and tell their mothers.
Children
can play peacefully with friend at the present and fight over toys or crayons
with their friends in the next minutes.
What
should you do?
You should let your children know that
their behavior is not good and tell them that if they don’t want to play with
their friends, stand up and go away.
In many cases, children like to use the
toys that they just violently get from their friends to hit them. If so, you
should separate their friends with them and let them play alone. That will help
them to understand when they do the thing, no one want to play with them.
Children talk impolitely
Children can learn and mimic very quickly.
That advantages sometimes make parents worried because no matter how they’re
well-educated at home, when contacting with society and friends, they’re still
able to learn bad habits. Talking impolitely is a typical example. But, a part
from fact that their language abilities haven’t been at the standard level,
there’re some other important factors which are their mistaking of differences
between communicating with friends and adults.
What
should you do?
You
can make a deal with your children as you won’t do what they want unless they
ask impolitely.
You should emphasize at the fact that your
children should express their thinking by full sentences with subjects and
objects, use polite words and practice them well. After that, you can make a
deal with your children as you won’t do what they want unless they ask
impolitely. Then, you should look into their eyes and tell them to repeat the
sentence. And of course, moms will have no reason to refuse a polite ask like:
“Mom, could I go playing outside?”
If your children talk impolitely to adults,
you should make them take it and apologize that people right away. Or you can
apologize to people on behalf of your children and tell them about this later
when there’re only you and your children. Sometimes, it’s just need being
patient since your children are just getting to know communication arts.
Children make mistakes but don’t how to fix them
There’s a truth about children is that they
hardly remember and obey all principles and rules. They really need friends
whom are grown up to guide them to follow the rules and show them how to fix
mistakes. This is also an opportunity to prepare for your children the normal
abilities to handle necessary situations.
You
shouldn’t tell them off or give them punishments but show them the consequences
of what they’ve done and the solutions.
What
should you do?
First of all, you need to calm down, avoid
telling them off or giving them punishments but show them the consequences of
what they’ve done and the solutions. For example, when you catch your children
drawing on the white wall and strictly tell them: “Where is the place that you
are allowed to draw on? Is the wall your drawing paper? What are you going to
do?” After that, make them clean the wall by themselves. It’s very possible
that moms will have to help them clean the wall in the end but, it’s important
that children have learned to pay for their mistakes.
For that reason, you don’t have to use any
punishment on your children. Moreover, if you teach them to behave well, they
will soon become conscious in what they do and independent in life.
