Being naughty in
children is a sign from which they want to say: "show me what is right to do!"
Children will be very grateful if you make
a clear rule for their behavior. Normally, being naughty in children is a sign
from which they want to say: "Show me what is right to do!"
Several basic points which are practically
tested below will help you on better-teaching your children:
Set up a clear limit
Define what kids are allowed to do indoors
and the strict punishment if they violate the rules. You can’t easily control
things that children do when they go out, but you can set up some standards of
behavior and attitude in your family so that the children can understand and
follow.
Define
what kids are allowed to do indoors and the strict punishment if they violate
the rules.
Be familiar and open hearted while talking to your children
If your children feel free to tell you
their confidence, you can easily get what they have done outdoors. Therefore,
give them a feeling of trust so that they can share with you everything. You
won’t agree to let them do whatever they like for sure, but it’s better not to
make them be shy or afraid when “negotiating” with you.
To build trust and make friends to your
child easily, all you have to do is to learn how to listen. Just by listening
to them, you’re sending an unspoken message like “we want to understand and
help you” or “we want you to know that you will always be given our trust and
whenever you have trouble, difficulties, you can share with us”. And this is
the biggest gift from you to your children.
Of course, before hoping your children to
tell you their confidence, you should be ready not to interrupt, break in, rush
to conclusion or lose your temper. You may have to punish them, but don’t do it
right now. Spend a while to calm
your mind, but don’t encourage them that you highly appreciate their honesty.
If
your children feel free to tell you their confidence, you can easily get what
they have done outdoors
Let your children know that you love them unconditionally
Children with compassion and care of their
family will be less disturbed than others. Be sure that you still love them no matter what they do, and you
will always stand by them. An
expression of love is that you will never let your children do wrong things,
but at the same time, make sure that you won’t stop loving them. When your child challenge you and realize
that your love still remain the same even if you are not satisfied with what
they have done, they will feel more secure. At that time, they will be steady
to the pressure of peers and be able to make right decisions next time.
Don’t be violent to your children
Insulting your children, whichever motivation it comes from, love or
anger, will all receive serious consequences afterwards. The child will become
shy and often have spites, complaints with parents and malignant attitude
toward other people. After growing up, these children will become stubborn and
senseless to the heart-breaking situations happening around them, because they
had been maltreated when they were young. These kinds of children can even
become criminals when they grow up.
Insulting
your children, whichever
motivation it comes from, love or anger, will all receive serious consequences
afterwards.
Treat your children as if they were adults
Most parents usually impose or force their
children to do what they want. Why don’t you treat them as adults? Just talk to
them with a fair attitude, just like talking to other adults; listen to their
point of view and thought, and help them understand everything thoroughly.
