Nowadays, among ten parents, nine of them
have complained of being hard when taking care of and bringing up a child. Why?
It was easy for our grandparents to bring
up tens of children under the difficult economic conditions once, only a child
is enough for nine of ten parents to complain today. What are the causes?
Obviously, material condition at the
present is more sufficient than one at the past. Methods of taking care of a
child have also found on all means of public communication, which is easy for
people to consult. It is believed that they are able to give a birth
comfortably. But not really! Sufficiency and superabundance of everything for
bringing up a child is the matter itself which makes parents being tired.
Nowadays,
among ten parents, nine of them have complained of being hard when taking care
of and bringing up a child. Why?
Be hard in the gestation period
Don’t mention “hunt for pregnancy” which
suddenly becomes much more difficult at present than at the past, we realize that
how to dink and eat to improve health before being pregnant and when to be
pregnant is actually a difficult problem for parents. As you know, nowadays
food for pregnant women is involved with not only hobby but nutrient. Not that
eating so much is good. Actually, food needs to contain many of nutrients which
help your baby healthy, smart…
In the past, list of diet food for pregnant
women has about some tens of dishes spread through word of mouth. Nowadays,
with Google, that list can be up to some pages of A4. Evenly, when to have
desire for any dishes, many mothers have to enter into Internet for searching,
ask after anybody they meet. After that, they just dare to eat or not. In
reality, almost foreign nutritionists advise that you should eat many different
kinds of food with a reasonable content, and you have no need to eat for your
baby like Vietnamese habit.
Besides, pregnant women’s health problems
are always questions often updated on forums for parents. Because many pregnant
women know how to combine personal experiences with knowledge they search on
the Internet, they diagnose more thoroughly than obstetricians. In spite of
diagnosing correctly or incorrectly, mothers are still in a state of worry at
first. Whenever they also feel as if they catch a disease, they rattle again,
ask after anyone they meet, refer to any websites they know…
Talk again and again, talk back and forth,
nowadays, there have been really some doctors who lack of conscience as well as
responsibility for patients. Thus, as posted in some recent newspapers, there
are series of lives of pregnant women and babies being in danger because of
doctors’ carelessness. This matter attracts the attention of lots of readers
now. Actually, our life is always full of unexpected events, we are not capable
of solve all. So, let’s be optimistic, be confident in life and promise by
ourselves as admonition of the ancients: “everything has always its destiny and
belongs to its owner”.
The fights take place after childbirth
If a pregnant task is a great hardship,
feeding task is a greater one. For parents, the gestation period only lasts
nine months and ten days, but it will take the whole life to bring up a child.
Therefore, if not consider carefully, dads and moms are always forced to live
in the fights which have hardly ended.
For
parents, the gestation period only lasts nine months and ten days, but it will
take the whole life to bring up a child
Those fights have started as soon as baby
comes into the world. This is the time when mother and new-born have to abstain
from many things. This makes both dad and mom more tired and miserably hard.
It’s better not to know. If consulting, there will be a series of “proofs”
which affirm whether we should abstain from something or not. And we really
hesitate to follow. Thus, today talent of intellectual is enough skill and
spirit to hold fast to decision, not searching information.
The above stage passed, a new battle begins
now: the battle of eating more. In the advanced era, with the outbreak of
Internet, feeding a child becomes insolvable. It’s not simple for people to
think that baby only need to change from breast-fed to powder-fed, from
powder-fed to gruel-fed, and from gruel-fed to rice as the past. Nowadays,
feeding children scientifically is connected with many new styles of methods of
eating more. According to some current parents, these methods will help
children eat dutifully and be self-reliant of eating soon.
If parents have full of time and condition
for looking after kids, you have to choose Japanese style because this style
will provide you with careful instructions from quantity, type, and raw level
of food to how to process food and the time of feeding. However, this method
often accompanies with extra complicated factors causing many problems for
new-approached persons, especially persons who are not patient like Japanese.
Other more simple methods are French style,
new Vietnamese style or mix-method style. But these are maybe pretty simple and
applied easily; dads and moms nowadays appreciate them a little. And they
consider them as alternative ones in case of no feeding condition. Besides,
another extremely simple method is “Baby Lead Weaning” (let children determine
by themselves).
With this method, parents don’t need to
cook fiddly, they only steam food, slice and let children eat themselves. The
quantity of food children consume depends on their needs, after that, parents
give kids to drink extra milk that is full. This method seems to be pretty good
because of its convenience for parents and being scientific for kids when it is
believed that kids know to need what and how much by themselves. But think
again, if we consider child as a sick adult who still know the body’s needs
clearly, whether he or she can eat easily and fully or not?
a
simple method is “Baby Lead Weaning” (let children determine by themselves).
And the story has not ended yet
That’s right. Although parents overcome the
battle of eating more successfully, there are other worries and obstacles
waiting for them such as food safety, toxin safety for tools and toys of kids…
But the matter needs to be addressed is to parent at this period. Parenting is
to orient and educate kids suitably. Teaching kids in accordance with old
method is able to have negative impact on kids’ development, but teaching kids
according to new method, which means that let kids develop free, will face to
danger, that, kids are such independence and mind that they become heartless.
Thus, parents pursuit the civilized teaching method so that offspring phlegmatically
consider leading parents to rest-home as an action of civilization and advance.
Finally, it’s necessary for all parents
keeping calm to select carefully things which suit them.
