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It’s difficult to punish your children in right way. Do not lose your temper when they make mistakes.

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Punish children in right way

When children make mistakes, parents usually teach, recommend, and even apply punishment. However, to punish your kids reasonable and effectively, you need to understand requirements and characteristics of their psychology.

Chronological psychological development

Besides hoping to be satisfied on biological side such as eating, wearing, and living, children also have necessarily psychological requirements for normal development like being safe, loved, respected, sympathized, and valuable.

Under 1-year-old babies

Babies are really close to their mothers or people who directly care for them in order to have the feeling of safety through love, care, talking or playing together. If punished (scold or cane), they will lose that feeling, and be scare, which affects early the development of their language and social interaction.

Description: To punish your kids effectively, you need to understand requirements and characteristics of their psychology.

To punish your kids effectively, you need to understand requirements and characteristics of their psychology.

1-to-3-year-old babies

Children begin doing many things on their own to prove themselves while their thought is detail, and their body still acts clumsily causing damage or break. If punished on body or scolded, they usually have reaction of resistance, stubbornness, screaming, or tantrum.

3-to-6-year-old babies

Children have developed their language, spoken full sentences, recognized their gender, increased gradually ability of adjusting themselves, and loved to discover the world outside. They also have assertive manner, so they are usually stubborn, easy to be considered as naughty kids, and begin learning what is right and reasonable in social side. Because babies in this age are very sensitive, if punished their mistakes, they will become less confident, and not be interested in learning.

Harm of punishment with wrong method

Parents always apply punishing method for their children because they have wrong conceptions: adults are always right, children must follow their commands; punish children is also possible to make them docile and obedient; keep strict to have respect from children; they are easy to be disobedient if not punished; there are no effective ways to punish except spanking, and so on. So, when kids make mistakes, many parents apply methods of physical and mental punishment. Physical punishment is actions making pain or injuries on baby’s body such as spanking, pinching, kicking, slapping, confining, hanging, kneeing. Mental punishment is actions damaging sentiment as abusing, laughing, dishonoring, threatening, abandoning, and so on.

These above punishments can lead to bad consequences on psychology such as: kids do not understand why their parents say to love them but punish them; children will be worried, scared, unconfident, and angry, and find ways to revenge or lie so as not to be punished; they also misunderstand that violence can deal with any problems. If punished frequently from young, they will establish unstable behaviors in the future, and can continue educating their children according to these methods. 

Description: Parents always apply punishing method for their children because they have wrong conceptions.

Parents always apply punishing method for their children because they have wrong conceptions.

How to punish kids effectively?

To punish children effectively, parents need to know the reason of wrong behavior of children. You must be patient, listen and find out clearly why they do that. Negative behavior of kids can be due to different purposes such as attracting attention of others, showing up their power, giving up, retaliating,… Patience, softness, and emotional control of parents when teaching children will lead to more effective and longer results than using punishment.

To teach kids effectively and in order for them to correct their mistakes, parents should apply the method of positive discipline. This method does not use force, not spank but still has effect by applying natural consequence and logical consequence. Natural consequence is what happens naturally without management of adults. For example, not eating makes you hungry; forgetting wearing coat causes coldness, and so on.

Two rules applied for natural consequence are: do not damage children, and do not influence others. Logical consequence requires interference of adults; for example, if kids do not study, they will have bad grade; if kids break toys, parents will not buy any more. Three rules for logical consequence are: cause and effect have to be related to each other (for example, if not putting toys in order, children will not be allowed to play them next time), respect kids, and reasonable. Methods of discipline belonging to logical consequence are carried out by following ways:

Lightly object

Tell children lightly and give forms of punishment if they make mistakes. For example, you can say: “Do not turn TV’s sound up like that because it’s too noisy”. If they do not implement, you continue: “If you continue maintaining it, I will turn TV off in 15 minutes”. If your children do not turn TV down, you will switch it off in 15 minutes as saying. If they obey, you should express your satisfaction.

Stamp out or ignore

If their wrong behavior is in light level and does not cause serious results, you should apply this method.

Isolate temporarily

Leave them in place where there is no interesting thing in short time (the number of minutes is equal to children’s age and is not over 15 minutes). Before punishing them, you have to give them the reason why.

Strip rights

Not allow babies to play toys or do actions which they are preferred if they do not implement requirements.

Create chance for correcting

You need to explain consequence of wrong behavior in order to help your children know how to improve. After that, not praise because they will receive much attention and can relapse imperfection again.

Educating children is a process. Desiring them to become good people requires parents to have skills, unite the way to teach their babies basing on love and close cooperation with school. Helping children recognize their defects and making chance for them to correct imperfection as well as develop strong points are best ways to assist your children to develop harmoniously and adapt well in the community in the future.

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