From eating and drinking very day,
mothers can teach children to become people that are civilized and polite.
Children don’t need to obey, they only need
to cooperate, many Western parents teach their children to know how to have
civilized and polite conduct from eating and drinking when they are young.
Practice independence for children
In America, where human and free right
develops strongly, independence is thing that children are practice most – shared
S. Paul (newspaper and magazine lecturer, American University). Paul is both a
researcher and a father; he notified that before he decided to have children,
he and his wife discussed and unified about method to educate children when
they are born.
It’s difficult for this thing. Paul
explained that “We accept and respect our children by letting them have right
to choose from food, eating time, sleeping time and hobby… This education will
encourage the difference and it also improves creativeness for children”.
Respect with maximum rate but you have to
give discipline. When children are young, they are taught to obey basic rules
such as eating and taking care of themselves if they can, eating and drinking
on time, and they have to be polite in public places. At the time when children
began to know how to hold and hand to eat, Paul and his wife directed their
children how to eat.
Parents
can respect children with maximum rate but they have to give discipline.
Children can be ashamed, confused and they
can even be surly and drop out. Parent’s’ duty is patient from this time to
that one. They can direct and encourage children, make meal to a game so that
children can practice until they become proficient.
To
teach children, parents need to be patient. Parents both direct and encourage
them.
Adults must be models for children
“Most of the children follow adults’
behaviors. They give question and their parents have duty to explain and direct
without imposing and ignoring when children ask. Many times, parents are
envious, get furious because they lose their calm when they face an obstinate
child. But the important thing is that they don’t lose so much control that
they teach their children with type “a tooth for a tooth”.
Paul said happily that “this thing means
that you shouldn’t teach children that biting is a bad habit by biting them; teaching
children that exchanging blows is a bad behavior by knocking them and crying on
children’s face so that they can know that crying is a bad virtue”.
When his son is hard-headed and doesn’t
cooperate, he won’t punish his son by scolding, threatening, won’t conclude
that the boy is “depraved” or “bad”. Instead of these things, he will seriously
correct, pay attention to the son’s hobby to “allure”. For example, my son can
wear his shoes, but sometimes he is harasses and orders parents. Normally, we
will be seriously guess him ask more polite questions, and support him to do
without doing a favor.
When our children have mistakes such as
telling lies, refusing to eat, not obeying disciplines, we will punish them by
reducing games, toys, playing time and children’s hobby. The biggest forbidden
things are scolding, giving the cane, threatening and concluding children to be
“corrupted” or “bad” because in reality, children are children and they are too
young. Children know that their parents respect and accept them, they will have
big self and they don’t respect adults and parents. As parents, we need to be
alert and strict with them on time.
The
biggest forbidden things are scolding, giving the cane, threatening.
