Women

Is Stress Killing Your Libido?

- 7 Kinds Of Fruit That Pregnant Women Shouldn’t Eat
- How to have natural miscarriage
- Foods That Cause Miscarriage
- Signs Proving You Have Boy Pregnancy

Feeling worried about sex, or rather, your lack of interest in it? You’re not alone. Here’s how to understand this modern phenomenon and relight your fire

Be honest - sometimes, sex can feel like just another item on your to-do list. ‘Recent statistics from the Kinsey Institute in the US suggest that our grandmothers had more sex than we do,’ says Nicci Talbot, author of Good Sex: A Couple’s Guide (Need2know, $14.9). Up to half of women are thought to suffer from low libido. And the biggest cause? Stress.

Is Stress Killing Your Libido?

Is Stress Killing Your Libido?

‘Lack of sex drive is extremely common among my clients,’ says women’s nutritional health specialist Marilyn Glenville (marilynglenville.com). ‘And it’s on the increase due to the stresses of modern life work, family, money and relationship worries.’ The good news, she says, is the problem can usually be solved by taking an informed approach.

So what’s the stress link?

Stress can act on your sex drive in several ways. ‘Emotionally, if you’re overworked, tired or have relationship issues, sex is not going to be a priority,’ says Talbot. ‘While men can often use sex to de-stress, women need to feel everything’s right in order to fully relax and let go.’

Stress can act on your sex drive in several ways.

Stress can act on your sex drive in several ways.

‘Physically, if you’re stressed, you’ll have higher levels of the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline,’ says Glenville. ‘This messes with your body’s ability to produce the male hormones, androgens, responsible for your sex drive. It’s also a survival mechanism. If the body perceives you’re under threat (because levels of stress hormones are high), it can “switch off” libido because it’s not a good time to get pregnant.’

The action plan

Try to address stress

OK, it’s easier said than done - we can’t just quit work, solve our money problems or find more hours in the day. But recognizing the hold stress has over your life is the first step to reducing it. ‘Make time for you and whatever you find relaxing,’ says Talbot.

Rule out other reasons

‘Certain medical conditions, such as depression and thyroid problems, can affect libido,’ says Glenville. ‘So can medications such as antidepressants and the Pill.’ See your GP if you want to rule these out. ‘Remember, too, that women’s hormones fluctuate (some women are most aroused around ovulation, others pre-menstrual), during and post pregnancy and with the menopause.

Eat right

‘Stress hormones are released according to your pattern of eating,’ says Glenville. ‘If you skip meals, or rely on sweet treats and caffeine to pep you up, your blood-sugar levels will fluctuate. Not only will this have a negative effect on your mood and energy, it’ll increase cortisol levels, too.’ The solution? ‘Eat little and often, always have breakfast, choose low-GI, wholegrain carbohydrates, and avoid sugary snacks and drinks, and caffeine and alcohol,’ she says.

‘Stress hormones are released according to your pattern of eating,’ says Glenville.

‘Stress hormones are released according to your pattern of eating,’ says Glenville.

Get the right nutrients

B vitamins are important nutrients for a healthy sex drive. These support mood and energy and are needed for making sex hormones,’ says Glenville. ‘So is zinc, which also helps optimize blood flow to the sex organs.’ Find both in meat, poultry, dairy, pulses, wholegrain and nuts. ‘Also important is magnesium, nature’s tranquillizer, and omega-3 essential fatty acids, which help to lubricate all our soft tissues and are also involved in the production of sex hormones. Taking them, along with a good daily multivitamin and mineral complex or a female nutrient formulation, will ensure you’re getting what you need.’

Keep exercising

‘Exercise is a good way to release stress hormones, so they don’t interfere with libido,’ says Glenville. It’s also a natural antidepressant and proven to boost self-esteem, confidence and body image. ‘Anything that lets you be in the moment and get in touch with your body is good - such as yoga or dance,’ says Talbot.

Exercise is a good way to release stress hormones, so they don’t interfere with libido,’ says Glenville.

Exercise is a good way to release stress hormones, so they don’t interfere with libido,’ says Glenville.

Try supplements

‘Adapt genic herbs help the body adapt to stress,’ explains Glenville. ‘They include Siberian ginseng, good for stress; American ginseng, for energy and stamina, and Angus cactus, which helps regulate the menstrual cycle and reduce PMS (don’t take it if you’re on the Pill). Damiana is another herb that has been linked with improved sex drive in women. And L-theanine is an amino acid proven to help reduce anxiety, which can be useful.’

Consider counseling

‘All the diet and supplements in the world can’t help if the root cause of your stress and low libido is your relationship,’ says Glenville. So don’t be shy about seeking therapy from a service such as Relate (relate.org.uk) or the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (cosrt.org.uk).

‘Often, the problem didn’t start as a relationship issue, but becomes one because anger and resentment builds when sex drives are mismatched,’ adds Talbot. ‘Remember, you can always try therapy on your own at first.’

 Be sexual

 ‘There’s an element of “use it or lose it” when it comes to libido,’ says Talbot. ‘With your partner, take the focus off sex and get back to kissing, massage and touch, and dates. And take a holiday if you can. Then invest time in reawakening your sexuality by yourself. This may involve reading erotica, watching films, buying new lingerie or toys, fantasizing and masturbating more. You probably won’t feel like it at first, but it’s a bit like exercise, you have to schedule it in and stick to it and soon you’ll wonder why you don’t do it more often!

 ‘There’s an element of “use it or lose it” when it comes to libido,’ says Talbot.

‘There’s an element of “use it or lose it” when it comes to libido,’ says Talbot.

Top search
Women
- 6 Ways To Have a Natural Miscarriage
- Foods That Cause Miscarriage
- Losing Weight In A Week With Honey
- Can You Eat Crab Meat During Pregnancy?
- Grape Is Pregnant Women’s Friend
- 4 Kinds Of Fruit That Can Increase Risk Of Miscarriage
- Some Drinks Pregnant Women Should Say No With
- Signs Proving You Have Boy Pregnancy
- Why Do Pregnant Women Have Stomachache When Eating?
- Top Foods That Pregnant Women Should Be Careful Of
- 6 Kinds Of Vegetable That Increase Risk Of Miscarriage
Other
Women
- The Secrets Of Deep Sleep
- 9 Extremely Important Notes In Pregnancy
- Things That Make Pregnant Women Anxious
- Unstable Symptoms At The End Of Pregnancy
- Eat, Fast Get Healthy (Part 1)
- Eat, Fast Get Healthy (Part 2)
- How To Get Your Five-A-Day On A Budget
- Technological Devices’ Influence On Children’s Health
- What To Do When Babies Are Lazy Drinking Water
- 8 Necessary Things In Pregnancy That Can Help Pregnant Women Feel Happy
 
30 Love Quotes for Boyfriends
women
Top keywords
women
Miscarriage Pregnant Pregnancy Pregnancy day by day Pregnancy week by week Losing Weight Stress Placenta Makeup Collection
Women
Top 5
women
- Cinnamon: A natural treatment for Polycystic Ovary Syndrome?
- 5 Tips for Safe Exercise During Pregnancy
- Four Natural Ways Alternative Medicine Can Help You Get Pregnant (part 2)
- Four Natural Ways Alternative Medicine Can Help You Get Pregnant (part 1)
- Is Your Mental Health Causing You to Gain Weight (part 2) - Bipolar Disorder Associated with Weight Gain